Love Challenged?

If you ask me, love should be celebrated everyday. Do something everyday to remind the people you’ve surrounded yourself with, that you love them. This weekend my hubby and I are heading out to celebrate our 14th wedding anniversary. We got a cute little tiny-home Airbnb to enjoy for the weekend. If I’m being honest, Valentines isn’t really celebrated in our marriage and that’s okay. I think our annual wedding day celebration is much more rewarding! Each year it causes us to reflect on how far we’ve come in our marriage and how much we’ve grown yet remain united.

What I’ve learned this past year is that I struggle loving myself more than anything. Through multiple counseling sessions and heart-to-heart conversations, it kept surfacing. The guilt and shame that would rise up when I thought of how I could love myself better. If anything, this ‘month of love’ inspired me to do more things that show myself love. It meant not waiting around for the perfect time to draw myself a bubble bath, a much deserved one. It meant filling up my day with more things that brought back life into my existence. It meant spending un-rushed time in the Word. Allowing my body to rest by sleeping at a decent time and showing gratitude for all that it does for me by feeding it food that nourishes and keeps me feeling vibrant and fueled.

An empty lantern provides no light. Self-care is the fuel that allows your light to shine brightly.” -Unknown

For so long, I’ve lived out of survival mode. Giving and giving and giving to everyone and leaving myself the leftovers of my soul. For FOMO (fear of missing out) on something or to please everyone around me. I became addicted to earning love and favor by doing more and giving more and more of myself, leaving me feeling depleted and empty. I was living and serving people with wrong intentions. I thought my value and worth was amounted in what I could do for others but overtime, burnout birthed resentment. I started discovering parts of myself that were ugly and negative. I couldn’t even articulate who I was seeing in the mirror. What was my life reflecting?

I resolved to going back to doing the things that support me being the best version of myself. They say that the way we love others reflects on how we love ourselves. For so long, I believe I was loving others more than I loved myself. I’m learning that it is NOT selfish to take care of your own wellbeing first. This month, I choose to do the things that heal and nourish my soul. I’m choosing to live out of a place of love. Knowing & believing that I deserve love without doing anything first. I no longer need to earn love. Love was mine from the beginning.

“Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.” -Christopher Germer

I created a 7 day challenge to encourage self love. If you resonate with any of this, then I want you to try checking off some of these things. It might be easier to accomplish these simple acts of self-love for some more than others. You can commit to checking off this list in the next 7 days or spread it through out the month. You decide! Happy Valentines Day!


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Fashion Rev: Take a Step Further

Since we've decided not to just sit around, lets start doing something. Anything. You will be amazed when you find out that it doesn't take much to make a difference. Lets start by taking a step further. Lets get to know our clothes even better! Pull out an article of clothing that you love to wear. Preferably from your favorite shopping store/boutique. See the wavy seam & the loose ends of threads that have been cut off? These are traces of the work done by people who made your clothes. 

Take a look at the label. On the label, you will find out what materials have been used to create your clothes. Whether it be cotton or polyester. Your label will also be able to tell you exactly where that piece was made from. So if its not obvious enough already, your clothing may have been cut & stitched together in Bangladesh, China, Cambodia, Romania, or any country for that matter. What your label wont tell you is where in the world the cotton farm is located, or where the fibers was spun into a yarn, or where the yarn was woven to fabric, or even where it was dyed & printed. It will not tell you where the thread, dyes, zippers, buttons, beading or any other features really come from.

So......

Where did all the materials come from? Where were they made from? What would it be like to work there? What kind of people do you think are involved? What are their lives like? We need to be more interested in finding out the answers to these kinds of questions. 

When we start asking these questions, we'll be able to really take a step forward towards changing the lives & stories for those who make our entire wardrobe. Enough with the petty questions like, " Does this look great on me?" or "how does this dress make me look?" We need to ask, "

Who Made My Clothes?"

Since your clothes is inside out already, then pull it on. Take a selfie with your clothing item, showing the label. Post it on social media (Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, etc.) and tag your clothing brand & in your caption ask "Who made my clothes?" Now invite your fashionable friends & family to join the revolution. Wait patiently & see if your favorite clothing brand can answer this question. You'll be surprised that a lot of big name brands, aren't even too sure exactly where their clothing are coming from.

You see? This is not something that we can ignore any more. We have to get involved & create awareness. Come back tomorrow to find out how we can get more involved! 

Lets be Fashion Revolutionaries!

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Instead of clothing yourself with clothes that cause people to be afflicted, abused, and bounded in slavery. Let us put on these holy garments. From all these, flows love. May you know how loved you are by God. And may you also know that He loves those who are enchained. Have compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, & patience. Lets be the hands and feet of Jesus. Lets reach out to those in need of freedom, restoration, and healing. Awareness, is the first step to a revolution. 

Have you taken your selfie yet? Find out who made your clothes. And when you do, please share below.

All resources from 

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How to Start a Fashion Revolution

I think I speak on behalf of most women, when I say that I love fashion! From head to toe. I love being able to express myself in the clothing that I creatively pick out for each day (unless I choose to stay in with leggings & a sweater). Not only that, I also love a good bargain. I love dressing chic on a small budget. This leads me to where I am now. I grew up watching my mom sew some of her own clothes & even design cultural clothing for us as well. I always admired her creativity. In my eyes, she invented the re-cycle & re-vamp clothing idea. I remember days where she would walk into her sewing room with a not-so-pleasantly looking item, & return later with a new and stylish piece! Even though it didn't fit me, I'd wishfully hope that someday I would be able to wear it.

Through the years,as I grew older, I've seen fashion move in such a speed that seems inhumane. Not only have we gone through different style phases & unending trend setters, but nothing really ever seems to last anymore. We're living in a world that is constantly moving in what seems like the speed of light. One day a style may be highlighted, and the next its old news. What have we come to?

Not only are styles constantly changing superficially fast, but even the distribution timing of our clothes has sped up extremely fast. What does this mean to us as consumers? This means that because we have become such needy & quick buyers in consumerism, constantly trying to obtain the trendiest styles of clothing. Someone, some where is paying the price. Despite there being international standards and national laws that should protect people, human rights abuses are prevalent throughout the fashion industry. In other words: Modern Day Global Slavery.

I mean, I get it, I'm guilty as well. I'm not sure how I never really opened my eyes in the past to know that forced labor, child labor, sexual harassment, discrimination, & people working in dangerous conditions had to happen in order for me to walk around with a fashion statement. But, now I know. In the words of a well know leader;

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

― Martin Luther King Jr.

I can no longer sit around in silence knowing these things. How did the fashion industry deem that slavery was okay? It should NEVER be acceptable to know that slavery is happening under our watch. 

“Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”
― Martin Luther King Jr.

So how do we start a 

Fashion Revolution?

We get curious. Get involved. & Create awareness.

I encourage you to look into it. You will soon realize that there's been much that has been concealed. But more & more, activists & organizations are working hard to inform, educate, & make a difference. We can make a difference TOGETHER.

Jane Goodall says,

"What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make."

First step to starting a Fashion Revolution: 

Check back this week for more tips on how to make a difference as a Fashion Revolutionist!

For more info please visit

www.fashionrevolution.org